Why do not you let other people to adapt to meet your people (2)

 Zhang Meng few months of marriage to her husband got a divorce just a little ridiculous reasons, just because her husband love to eat salty, and she finds much salt is unhealthy to want to change the light a little taste of his . result, every meal, all this bickering, and her husband began to not eat at home. To make her husband home for dinner, she withheld her husband's wages. and then later, her husband filed for divorce.
Everyone is an independent entity, even a naive child, it will not grow as you wish. So do not listen to you because if they do not worry about unbearable, even if the other party is your husband or child, you They have no right and ability to fully adapt you. learn to respect each other's personality and, when necessary, to change their adapt to each other.
a woman accustomed to squeezing toothpaste from the tail end, and her husband can not do this often point, for which she was often quarreling with her husband, and later the more intense the more noisy, the final divorce agreement. This sounds almost incredible, but it is a fact. If we get married before they know the different ways of squeezing toothpaste may make us putting out the fire of love, we will use the time for a minute or two to reach a consensus on this issue, and then to marriage hall. And calm down and think about it relative to what they have eachother's love, it is a negligible small thing, why can not you compromise a little? or simply squeeze every morning to give him a good toothpaste?
, of course, meet other people, not submissive obedience, not to lose their personality to the cost. Take us with the boss example is the relationship, since we chose this boss, and hope something here, you should go to meet the boss, the boss can not be expected to adapt to us. But why have so many people kept complaining about the boss, and then stop hopping?
This involves the problem of how to adapt, some people in order to please the boss, no matter what the boss said all nodded yes, not that their own minds, then this can only be called blind loyalty and loyalty not wisdom, the boss will naturally not reuse a blind obedience of the people. In fact, the real adaptation does not to help the boss to reach the right decisions for the benefit of their own with the implementation. not blind obedience, not only to work for the boss to please, but do with the implementation of decisions made more perfect, this is really the boss accountable to themselves.
trying to reform others, let others adapt to you, will only cause resentment of others. a wise man, will the overall situation, such as better cooperation in order to reduce conflicts and for the common well-being, the principle will be in some non-issue, to compromise and change themselves to adapt to others.
Everyone has the desire to dominate others, because everyone in the subconscious hope that their role is influential. However, any reform to adapt their behavior to others can only end in failure. no one will like, like clay figurines us, that we casually pinch, we can control only their own. If you can not change others, change it yourself!